5 Lessons to Learn from My First Online Dating Encounter

If you just want the bottom line about the online dating lessons, go to the end of the post. But this online dating story is worth the read.  Email and text excerpts that follow are authentic actual conversations (including misspellings) saved on my computer and cell phone.

The Last Love of Mark Rossi!

Less than 24 hours after I had put my online profile on the online dating website, Match.com,  I was pleasantly surprised to get a message from Mark Rossi — age 62 (five years younger than me — could I handle being a cougar?).  Mark’s profile showed him to be  Italian/American, a widower, a successful international businessman and very good-looking! Continue reading “5 Lessons to Learn from My First Online Dating Encounter”

A Fool Will Lose Tomorrow Reaching Back for Yesterday!

 

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Grief is such a strange emotion and can pop up when we least expect it. Have you ever lost someone through divorce or death?  Have you ever had a regret — something you looked back on and wished you could change?

Yes, most of us can probably relate to experiencing of grief.  The voice of a good friend comes into my mind right now.  She says:  “STOP.  You can’t go back.  Dwelling on it is fruitless.  You need to look at today and tomorrow and what you can do now!”  

Yesterday, I talked a little about online dating.  Now, I would like to back up a step and talk about the loss that many of us feel.  The older we get, the more loved ones we lose.  It is the way things are.

What if you are not ready to move on?  And how do you know if you are ready to date again?  Will you ever be able to find the loving relationship you had before?  I ask this, because I truly believe Continue reading “A Fool Will Lose Tomorrow Reaching Back for Yesterday!”

Online Dating at My Age? Absolutely!

Senior dating online may be a stretch for some of us, but consider the benefits.  Do you let age put unnecessary restrictions on you?  Some days I feel like I am seventeen.  Other days I don’t.  Can baby boomers and other seniors find love again?  Why not?

 “I think people would live a bit longer if they didn’t know how old they were. Age puts restrictions on things.” Karl Pilkington

One month after we both lost our respective spouses, I had a phone conversation with an old family friend.   It went something like this:

“So, Harry, how did it happen that we have come to this point in our lives and find ourselves alone, without a partner?

It was extremely difficult for Harry to accept that his wife of 40 years was gone. Though she was in his heart and he talked with her privately,  Ann would never be a part of his every day life again. He had lost her rather quickly — just four short months from diagnosis to death.

I lost my husband after a long ten-year battle with cancer.  There is really no way of losing a loved one that equips us to deal with the loss or know how to pick up the pieces.

I could not believe it when, in time, we started talking about finding new mates. Wondering whether senior online dating was a viable option, we talked. Dating again, at our age? Continue reading “Online Dating at My Age? Absolutely!”