Online Dating at My Age? Absolutely!

Senior dating online may be a stretch for some of us, but consider the benefits.  Do you let age put unnecessary restrictions on you?  Some days I feel like I am seventeen.  Other days I don’t.  Can baby boomers and other seniors find love again?  Why not?

 “I think people would live a bit longer if they didn’t know how old they were. Age puts restrictions on things.” Karl Pilkington

One month after we both lost our respective spouses, I had a phone conversation with an old family friend.   It went something like this:

“So, Harry, how did it happen that we have come to this point in our lives and find ourselves alone, without a partner?

It was extremely difficult for Harry to accept that his wife of 40 years was gone. Though she was in his heart and he talked with her privately,  Ann would never be a part of his every day life again. He had lost her rather quickly — just four short months from diagnosis to death.

I lost my husband after a long ten-year battle with cancer.  There is really no way of losing a loved one that equips us to deal with the loss or know how to pick up the pieces.

I could not believe it when, in time, we started talking about finding new mates. Wondering whether senior online dating was a viable option, we talked. Dating again, at our age? Continue reading “Online Dating at My Age? Absolutely!”

How to Be Happy? Be a Rainbow!

Yesterday’s post focused on getting out of our own way and asking for help when we are in need.  Today, I want to talk about how you can be a help — a blessing, a rainbow in someone’s cloud.

Growing up we were taught not to be selfish, to share and be generous — to help one another.  “Love your neighbor”.

Mother Teresa, just canonized as a saint by the Pope said:

Never worry about numbers. Help one person at a time, and always start with the person nearest you.

Now, we are learning with scientific research in neuroscience that helping others actually helps us — it makes us happy.

How to be Happy is About Helping Others

Judy is a 50 year old caretaker for my Down Syndrome son, Bob.  Judy is a Christian and she has a boatload of problems that would drown many people in despair.  Her faith helps to anchor her and give her life direction.  Continue reading “How to Be Happy? Be a Rainbow!”

Asking for Help is Crucial to Success!

No matter how smart you are, you don’t have all the answers!  Have you ever watched someone who does not have access to GPS get lost?  There is no shame in asking for directions.

In fact, it is just plain silly and a bit stupid to be so independent that you do everything by trial and error.  This same concept applies to life situations that go to the heart of why people get stuck in their lives. Continue reading “Asking for Help is Crucial to Success!”