5 Lessons to Learn from My First Online Dating Encounter

If you just want the bottom line about the online dating lessons, go to the end of the post. But this online dating story is worth the read.  Email and text excerpts that follow are authentic actual conversations (including misspellings) saved on my computer and cell phone.

The Last Love of Mark Rossi!

Less than 24 hours after I had put my online profile on the online dating website, Match.com,  I was pleasantly surprised to get a message from Mark Rossi — age 62 (five years younger than me — could I handle being a cougar?).  Mark’s profile showed him to be  Italian/American, a widower, a successful international businessman and very good-looking! Continue reading “5 Lessons to Learn from My First Online Dating Encounter”

Remarkable Retirement Doesn’t Just Happen

Let’s reflect on your retirement status.  How do you spend your day?  What motivates you to get up in the morning? What do you look forward to with excitement?

If you have trouble getting off the couch or if most of your day is spent fulfilling obligations placed on you —  rather than planned by you;   if you don’t have something that really gets you excited — maybe it is time for to reassessment what retirement means for you.

There were so many years I spent my energy working my butt off to support myself, raise children, etc.   Crap, I started working for a paycheck when I was twelve years old and kept on going.   It seemed there was never enough time for everything.  There were always competing obligations, especially during the time I was a single working mom.  I so much looked forward to a time when I could do whatever I damn well pleased.  Well, now I can!  What a luxury!

Have you ever heard of a “seenager”? The little verse below put a smile on my face when it showed up in my inbox one morning.  It  speaks to Continue reading “Remarkable Retirement Doesn’t Just Happen”

A Fool Will Lose Tomorrow Reaching Back for Yesterday!

 

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Grief is such a strange emotion and can pop up when we least expect it. Have you ever lost someone through divorce or death?  Have you ever had a regret — something you looked back on and wished you could change?

Yes, most of us can probably relate to experiencing of grief.  The voice of a good friend comes into my mind right now.  She says:  “STOP.  You can’t go back.  Dwelling on it is fruitless.  You need to look at today and tomorrow and what you can do now!”  

Yesterday, I talked a little about online dating.  Now, I would like to back up a step and talk about the loss that many of us feel.  The older we get, the more loved ones we lose.  It is the way things are.

What if you are not ready to move on?  And how do you know if you are ready to date again?  Will you ever be able to find the loving relationship you had before?  I ask this, because I truly believe Continue reading “A Fool Will Lose Tomorrow Reaching Back for Yesterday!”

Online Dating at My Age? Absolutely!

Senior dating online may be a stretch for some of us, but consider the benefits.  Do you let age put unnecessary restrictions on you?  Some days I feel like I am seventeen.  Other days I don’t.  Can baby boomers and other seniors find love again?  Why not?

 “I think people would live a bit longer if they didn’t know how old they were. Age puts restrictions on things.” Karl Pilkington

One month after we both lost our respective spouses, I had a phone conversation with an old family friend.   It went something like this:

“So, Harry, how did it happen that we have come to this point in our lives and find ourselves alone, without a partner?

It was extremely difficult for Harry to accept that his wife of 40 years was gone. Though she was in his heart and he talked with her privately,  Ann would never be a part of his every day life again. He had lost her rather quickly — just four short months from diagnosis to death.

I lost my husband after a long ten-year battle with cancer.  There is really no way of losing a loved one that equips us to deal with the loss or know how to pick up the pieces.

I could not believe it when, in time, we started talking about finding new mates. Wondering whether senior online dating was a viable option, we talked. Dating again, at our age? Continue reading “Online Dating at My Age? Absolutely!”

How to Be Happy? Be a Rainbow!

Yesterday’s post focused on getting out of our own way and asking for help when we are in need.  Today, I want to talk about how you can be a help — a blessing, a rainbow in someone’s cloud.

Growing up we were taught not to be selfish, to share and be generous — to help one another.  “Love your neighbor”.

Mother Teresa, just canonized as a saint by the Pope said:

Never worry about numbers. Help one person at a time, and always start with the person nearest you.

Now, we are learning with scientific research in neuroscience that helping others actually helps us — it makes us happy.

How to be Happy is About Helping Others

Judy is a 50 year old caretaker for my Down Syndrome son, Bob.  Judy is a Christian and she has a boatload of problems that would drown many people in despair.  Her faith helps to anchor her and give her life direction.  Continue reading “How to Be Happy? Be a Rainbow!”

Asking for Help is Crucial to Success!

No matter how smart you are, you don’t have all the answers!  Have you ever watched someone who does not have access to GPS get lost?  There is no shame in asking for directions.

In fact, it is just plain silly and a bit stupid to be so independent that you do everything by trial and error.  This same concept applies to life situations that go to the heart of why people get stuck in their lives. Continue reading “Asking for Help is Crucial to Success!”